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PART III: HEALING
After dealing with the two school violence incidents, Principal Tuan Anh affirmed that the family and school are the two factors that play a very important role in caring, protecting, and raising the children. Of the two factors, the family is the mainstay.
The school needs to equip students with life values and life skills that will help them negotiate, compromise and find ways to resolve their conflicts.
The fact is that students of this age group hesitate to share issues they have to address with their teachers and parents. More dangerously, when they neither talk about problems with their parents and teachers, nor receive satisfactory answers, they use social media to create closed groups.
And reality shows their real-life conflicts all stem from conflicts which took place on social networks, a factor which makes it challenging for both parents and teachers to fully grasp and intervene when necessary.
Even when teachers recognize the problem and request parents to cooperate, some families are willing while some are not, for they think that is none of the school’s business. Some parents perceive the case in a different way by trying to conceal their children’s bad behavior.
Some parents are too busy making ends meet so that they lack time to spend on childcare. Some others think that it’s up to the school to bring up their children
This is the reason why Principal Tuan Anh makes public his mobile phone number at the school gate. Through text messages and calls, even contacts in person, the Principal can give psychological advice to students and their parents.
“Once, when the school time was up, I suddenly received a phone call from a student saying: ‘Teacher, there is going to be a big fight near the beach’. The caller even named the two male students going to fight each other,” Tuan Anh recalled.
I cycled from the school to the beach and saw hundreds of students cheering for these two boys
Seeing the teacher coming, the students pretended to be having fun. I called these two students by name to disperse the crowd and they finally took their bags and went in two opposite directions. But I knew it would not end so simply.
I called the police to report the incident. When I returned, I saw the police escorting the two boys to the station. At that time, a student with a knife and another student with a broken beer bottle prepared to fight.
The police were deployed to preempt a possible fighting in time. They also invited families of the two boys to deal with the incident. This is a successful case.
Tuan Anh’s mobile phone still stores a lot of text messages from students telling about their school affairs, from love to fighting.
For each message or call, he gives advice to students or provides information for the teacher in charge of the young pioneer brigade to talk to them. Therefore, the students find it easy to share problems with the Principal.
Many of the students’ conflicts are very trivial, but it’s dangerous if there conflicts incited by crowds turn into violence incidents that cause far-reaching consequences.
Some fight, some cheer, and some record clips. Children seem to be incited to get involved in fighting without knowing the consequences. It’s pretty sure they all have certain psychological trauma especially after the video clip posted on social media receives negative reactions from internet users.
Those videos are part of the “black memories” of all students. Therefore, it is imperative to prevent the re-uploading of these videos, so that these memories are not rekindled.
In this story, the solution has been found in A’s story after she received due care, sharing, and love from teachers and the family.
"I am aware of my wrongful acts towards the girl, and the love and care of my parents and teachers has made me the person I am today", A said.
Environment can change people!
Producers
Directors: Tuyet Yen - Pham Hoa
Reporters: Nguyen Trang - Le Hoang
Translator: Huu Binh
Illustrator: My Anh
Programmer: Duc Dk
UX Designer: Uyen Huong
Organization
VOV online newspaper, Voice of Vietnam (VOV)